Don't confuse the desire for attention with need for help

Trainers, coaches, members...lend me your ears. 

Don't confuse a person's need for help with their need for attention.

Some people want your help. They're willing to be vulnerable, work hard, fail, and keep coming back to try again. These people are the ones that want help and the ones that deserve it. 

Others want your attention. People who want you to listen to them gripe and grumble about things outside of your control or scope. I'm all for a shoulder to cry on or an ear to talk to, but once it's done, it's done. Move on. Get on with your life. Don't fall into the trap of wanting attention from others just to give airtime to your griping.

The good news is you can go from an attention seeker to a help seeker with one simple decision. 

Decide you want to change

If you decide you want to change, then griping is merely a way of getting everything on the table for someone to understand. After that, you and them can decide how to best break things up and prioritize what you'll work on first. What adjustment will give you the biggest bang for your buck? Which decision can you stick with for the long term? What do you want to change first?

The decision to change separates the complainers from the doers. The curmudgeons from the get-better-ers. The energy sappers from the energy givers.

Decide you want to change and be the best you you can be today.